Chances are, you’ve probably gotten hit by the green-eyed monster some time in your life. You’ve been jealous over how someone looks, their athleticism, their smarts…the list could go on forever.
I’ve been there, and still go there. It’s hard to realize what amazing things you have when all you do is compare yourself to others. Jealousy has the opposite affect that you want it to have.
Recently, I was jealous of my friend for a bit. She’s very pretty, nice, smart, athletic, and is really good at meeting new people. I’m a little more shy and awkward in new situations. I began comparing everything I had to her. The number of Instagram followers, likes on a picture, grades, awards…creepy, huh? The thing that really gets me now, is that I would acknowledge the things I excelled at, too, and would just skip over them, like they didn’t count. I was thinking that I had to be better or the same to her in every single category that she was good at. I wasn’t taking time to realize that we will always be different. We aren’t supposed to be or want to be exact molds of anyone. So why was I so obsessed and jealous?
I was watching a video (think it was by Bubzbeauty, but I’m not sure) about jealousy on Youtube, because I wanted to hear someone else’s point of view. At the end, I think I had really understood that I am supposed to be different, and that’s not a bad thing.
I can draw okay. I am good at school. I think I am a good role model to my younger cousins. I’m a good team player in volleyball. I like playing piano. I like blogging. I like reading.
All of these things define me and make me different. No one else will ever be like me and I will never be exactly like anyone else.
So I think the key to getting over jealousy, is really think about what you are good at and appreciate that you are different. Don’t just think grades or after school activities – dig deeper. Life isn’t a competition. Just do your best and do what you love.